Sex Positive Counseling

Sex-Positive Counseling – No Judgement, No Shame

What Does “Sex-Positive” Mean?

Being sex-positive means I believe:

Sexual expression is beautifully diverse. People express themselves romantically and sexually in many different ways, and that diversity is natural and okay.

Consensual = Healthy. If it’s consensual and makes you happy, it has the potential to be healthy and fulfilling. There’s no one-size-fits-all template for a “good” sex life or relationship.

Love and relationships come in many forms. Monogamy is just one option. Ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, open relationships, BDSM dynamics, asexual romantic partnerships – you name it – are all valid ways to connect. 👫👬👭 (And it’s also okay if you prefer the traditional route! No judgement either way.)

No stigma or shame. Sexuality shouldn’t be a source of shame. I don’t use words like “should” or “normal” about your consensual sexual choices. Whether your interests are vanilla or very spicy, they’re part of who you are – and that’s accepted here.

Why Sex-Positive Therapy? (Because You Deserve a Safe Space)

I know that many people who enjoy “alternative” sexual lifestyles or relationship structures hesitate to go to therapy. Maybe you’ve feared that a therapist will clutch their pearls at your BDSM checklist, or blame your polyamorous setup for an issue that has nothing to do with it. Sadly, you’re not wrong to worry – some therapists (even unintentionally) do let their personal biases interfere. They might zero in on your kink or your non-traditional relationship and miss the real issues, making you feel judged or misunderstood. That will not happen here.

As a sex-positive therapist, I want you to know: your kinks, fetishes, orientation, or relationship style will never be seen as “the problem” by default. We’ll talk about what you want to talk about. If your issue is anxiety at work or feeling down, I’m not going to insist we analyze your BDSM hobby or your open marriage unless you think it’s relevant. And if it is relevant, we’ll discuss it with the understanding that there’s nothing inherently wrong with it.

No matter how you express yourself sexually or who you love, you are safe with me. That means:

I’m knowledgeable about a spectrum of sexual orientations, gender identities, kink practices (yes, I know what a safeword is), and poly relationship structures. You won’t have to educate me from scratch – but I’m always open to learning more about your unique experience.

I will never yuck your yum. What lights your fire is part of your story, and as long as it’s consensual, I’m here to support, not to judge.

I stay up-to-date. The world of human sexuality is always evolving (new identities, terms, communities). I’m continually learning from research, trainings, and voices in sex-positive communities. If something is new to me, I’ll approach it with curiosity and respect, not fear or judgment.

Therapy should be a place where you can take off all the masks (figuratively… or literally, if masks are your thing! 😉). You can talk about jealousy in your polycule, the stress of hiding your true self from family, or the empowerment you find in kink, without having to tone it down or translate it into “vanilla” terms. We’ll focus on what you want to change or cope with — whether that’s improving communication with a partner, healing from past trauma, exploring your identity, or anything else — within the context of who you truly are.

Ready for judgement-free support? You don’t have to censor yourself here. I’m not just “okay” with your lifestyle; I affirm it. My goal is for you to feel completely comfortable bringing all of yourself into our sessions.

👉 Request an Appointment and let’s get started. Come as you are – really. 🏳️‍🌈🤗

(Your sexuality and relationship style are part of what make you, you. In therapy with me, that’s always a strength, never something to hide.)